if I'm important to you, show me

Let's face it, many people use dating apps for one night stands. You don't even need Tinder or anything else if that's what you want. Go down to any bar or club and at least you'll know instantly if someone is physically attractive to you.

But if you're looking for a relationship that could turn into something more, you must let the conversation flow and find out all the things you have in common. If you achieve that, the face-to-face meeting will be much easier and you won't feel like complete strangers. How on earth can you do that? You just need to feel like the other person wants to get to know you as much as you want to get to know them.

We have thousands of past experiences at 'If not you, nobody', and we have learned that the worst thing you can do is try to force things, or, oddly enough, slow them down too much. You will feel more secure when you meet, because seducing and being seduced is like a game in which both of you have to pull out all the stops from the very beginning.

We gradually show you the profile of the person you have connected with, so you have more time to get to know the person you are chatting to, before making a quick judgment simply based on their appearance.

The key is finding that middle ground where everything flows in the most natural way possible. It's what has worked all your life: "You like me and I like you... Can we talk?"

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